Ripping the Veil off a Dark Industry

Excerpt: Ripping the Veil off a Dark Industry

Course: Freedom From Pornography

Speakers: Brittni De La Mora

Seeing the Human Side of Pornography

Maybe you’re like I was, thinking that watching porn isn’t a big deal because those performing it seem to enjoy it. You might believe they’re happy with what they do, not realizing the deep pain and brokenness behind the scenes.

The Hidden Pain

A few years ago, I was helping a girlfriend transition out of the porn industry. I had known her since 2012 when I was leaving porn. She was struggling with drug addiction and felt stuck, believing the lies that she had made her bed and now had to lie in it. She was convinced that quitting would leave her unemployed and an addict. I kept in touch with her until I heard she had checked into a sober living home and quit the industry. I sent her clothes and books, and we stayed in contact. She once asked me, “Is it normal to want to commit suicide?” and I was shocked. Then, I lost contact with her, and later found out she had died. This isn’t an isolated incident. In 2018 alone, there were about six suicides in the industry, including one of my close friends.

The Reality Behind the Fantasy

When we watch pornography, we might think we want to quit because it affects our soul, but we often don’t see the humanity of those performing. Many performers are trapped in cycles of addiction and brokenness. In my seven years in the industry, I often used drugs to cope with the weight of my sin, without which I might have ended my life. I’ve seen performers on set, drinking heavily, doing drugs, and even crying during shoots, feeling degraded and trapped, but continuing because stopping meant no paycheck.

Stories of Brokenness

I often asked performers why they got into the industry. Many had stories of molestation, rape, and growing up in religious households where they were told they would go to hell for not being perfect. This kind of brokenness and dysfunction led them to porn, not empowerment.

My last three and a half years in porn, I had a pimp, and nobody knew. Everyone thought he was my fiancé. I had a quota to meet daily, sometimes resorting to selling myself on Backpage for $80 to $100 a guy. It was terrifying, fearing for my life. I lost another close friend to addiction or suicide, and found out too late.

The Lie of Empowerment

When people say porn is empowering, it’s frustrating. If porn were empowering, why would so many performers commit suicide or contract HIV? Why are the movie titles degrading? Porn isn’t empowering; it’s degrading. Many performers have bought the lie that it gives them freedom, but you’re a slave to whatever controls you, whether it’s porn or money.

I’ve shared my story countless times over the last 11 years since becoming a Christian. Many people thank me, saying it helps them resist temptation. So, if you’re struggling, remember, you’re not alone. Knowing the truth sets you free.

Moving Forward

As you continue with this course, don’t let the enemy trick you into believing porn is empowering. The performers are hurting too. They’re not enjoying what they do. Many struggle with erectile dysfunction and use medication to perform. What you see is a fantasy, not reality.

Conclusion

I hope this helps you see the human side of those in the industry. Just like you, they’re hurting and struggling. Porn is an escape that never leads to true freedom.

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Part 1: Stories of Struggle

Session 1: What is the Struggle?

Video: Introduction: Freedom from Pornography

Video: Stories of Struggle with Matthias and Ryan

Video: Healing Prayer to Break Chains

Topics: Early Exposure and Unseen Wounds

Session 2: The People

Video: Brittni’s Story

Video: Humanizing the Struggle

Video: Safeguard your Life from Porn; Warfare Prayer to Break the Chains

Topics: The Broken People Who Make Porn; Taking Action Against Using Porn

Part 2: The Roots of Dependency versus Design

Session 3: How Does This Dependency Begin?

Video: Ripping the Veil off a Dark Industry

Video: What’s in the Search Bar

Video: Exploring Wounds through Attachment Style

Video: Exposing the Lies of the Sexual Revolution

Topics: The Truth about the Industry; What’s Driving Your Porn Use

Session 4: Biblical Roots

Video: Knowing Your Enemies

Video: Rejecting Synthetic for Authentic; Looking for Patterns and Capturing Thoughts

Video: Inner Healing Prayer for Pornography

Topics: Three Enemies; Gypsy Moth Mating Disruption; Inner Healing Prayer

Part 3: Reconnecting and Reattaching

Session 5: Reconnecting With An Authentic God

Video: The Healing Power of the Gospel

Video: Habits for Healing with God

Video: The Three-Part Bible Formula for Freedom

Topics: How God Sees You; Wild Mustangs; Learn the Formula for Success

Session 6: Working On Self

Video: Breaking the Addiction-Shame Cycle

Video: Creating Infrastructure for Healing

Video: The Neuroscience of Addiction; What Porn Does to Your Brain

Topics: Judgement and Shame; Visceral Reactions; Your Brain’s Reaction

Session 7: Working With Others

Video: Practices for Building Community; Relationships of Trust

Video: How to Find Good Accountability

Topics: Communities; Who to Trust; Action Before Failure

Session 8: Healing With A Spouse

Video: Providing Helpful Accountability; Confess the Temptation, Not the Mistake

Topics: Being a Safe Listener; Sharing Safely; Listening Triad

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